This is the Temperance card in standard decks, offering us the advice of compromise and moderation. Stuffing ourselves down in a box, going along to get along, follow the line of Sheeple.
After pondering on the image which is indeed a celebration in both thought and action I realized this was the brilliant idea behind my little sister's service. She was casual and uncomplicated, not one for outdated traditions or hidebound thought patterns. So no formal ceremony. There will be a potluck at her home, bring a chair, gatherers can speak if they wish, beyond that, eat visit hug and remember. Cool. Her page.
"How do you go about choosing something that will hold the half of your heart you have to bury?" ~ Jodi Picoult, Mercy
Tarot opened previously closed doors to my own heart with it's merciless quest for the truth, nothing but the truth. They flay the soul and make me say thank you afterward. Each hour spent with my cards is a new lesson to be learned. Viva la Journey.