I expect love was complicated. Here we see not two choices, but the wife and the mother-in-law. The parents of the male hired an agent to present their offer to the female's parents. If accepted, in due time the marriage occurred and then the male generally lived with the in-laws until a domicile of their own could be afforded.
I'm reminded by this card, here, with the exception of arranged marriages little has changed. People get married before they can afford the overhead, get an apartment, have a baby, go really broke, move back home to the detriment of the real potential of the marriage. Life. We are always in a hurry to get in and then fight to get back out.
"A marriage of two independent and equally irritable intelligences seems to me reckless to the point of insanity." ~ Dorothy L. Sayers 1893-1957 Gaudy Night
The cards open previously closed doors to my own heart with their merciless quest for the truth, nothing but the truth. They flay the soul and make me say thank you afterward. Each hour spent with my cards is a new lesson to be learned. Viva la Journey.