Thursday, September 12, 2019

Repair The Damage

Haindl Tarot ~ Hanged Man

The opportunity to redeem from error, to repair the damage, restore what was lost. (Snuffin)

How many times in the course of our lifetime do we wish for this opportunity. And we don't act because we'd have to admit we'd crossed a line. Yet the times I've actually sat down with someone and apologised, mostly it has been brushed off, made light of. I wonder if those working step 9 of a 12 step program often meet the same. I know when my little brother came to me I totally blew him off, done is done, doesn't matter, get on with life. It was only much later I realized what he was trying to do and wished I'd sat and given him my full attention. 

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  1. The goal of Step 9 is to state what we did without excusing or blaming the action on someone else. We make restitution as best we can. The harder part is in having no expectation of how an amends is received. But insight helps us see that we are the ones dragging the heaviness of guilt with us, and sincerely asking for forgiveness is the key to unlock the ball and chain. It doesn't matter if we are met with cursing, apathy or congratulations.

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    1. I knew you'd have some insight. Confrontation is difficult and mostly we'd rather sweep everything under the rug than have a frank discussion which would be so helpful for all parties.

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  2. Regrets, I have a pocket full of them.

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    1. a pocketful isn't too bad for a lifetime. A gunny sack full, now that would require some work

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    2. At one time I may have had a gunny sack of them, but the brain cells are starting slough off.

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    3. one of the many pleasures of getting older, my priorities are much clearer, and not sweating the small stuff. Its nearly all small.

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