Wednesday, May 4, 2022

Three Totes

 Tao Oracle ~ Decrease

A dark card, but all the keywords can be teaching moments because less can be more.

I'm thinking today about mother's photo collection. To give her credit she had many wonderful family and vacation albums, people and places identified and dated. But also 3 large totes of loose photographs came to me, maybe 1% identified. I felt burdened and guilty, knowing they were precious to her, and not knowing how to honor that. 

In the end I shipped shoeboxes of them to cousins hoping they could identify a few for their own pleasure. No one ever said if they did. The rest eventually met fire, the way I let go of things that simply serve no purpose but soul weight. I can't pull the wagon of someone else's stuff.

6 comments:

  1. We had the same issue with my MIL - hundreds of old photos but no idea who was in them. They went in the trash.

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    1. a visual lesson for me was waiting for my hairdresser to thumb through 2K photos on her phone so she could show me somewhere she'd been. I think I have about 25 on my ipad, and maybe 5 on my phone :)

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  2. "I can't pull the wagon of someone else's stuff" a good analogy to keep in front of me. I went through pictures with Mother when they downsized; hundreds of loose photos and a couple of albums. Together we split them up and sent a pile to the each of my other siblings. I still have some things in closet from parents, for no particular reason. Time to rid myself of the stuff that not me or others want.

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    1. that's just it, putting other people's stuff in closets and attics just won't cut it, someone has to deal with it. I'd rather it was my choice. The grown-up one :)

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  3. Sharyn, it's Carolyn, I am the Anonymous? Don't why Google did that

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    1. are you signed out for some reason? About a week ago they changed blogger again, that is probably what triggered it. You'll never be a Nony Mouse to me ((()))

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